What can you do about your anger? To know about its adverse impacts and the ways to heal it, read out the project bellow, which I had prepared for myself.
1. What are the effects of anger?
Well, before I answer this question I would like to define anger first.
What is Anger? Anger is a strong emotion; a feeling that is oriented toward some real or supposed grievance. There are two contributed factors for anger such as internal and external environments.
The effects of anger are generally divided in to two, they are as follows;
• Physiological effects
• Psychological/ emotional/mental effects
• The followings are the physiological effects of anger;
i. Loss of appetite / indigestibility problems
ii. High blood pressure
iii. Headache
iv. Restlessness/loss of sleep (insomnia)
• Psychological/ emotional/mental effects
i. Tears
ii. Aggressiveness
iii. Negative thought or perceptions
iv. Loss of wisdom/mental problems
v. Confusion
vi. Loss of good decision making ability
vii. Depression
viii. Madness/insaneness
ix. Displacement
x. Revenge
xi. Stubbornness
xii. Over-emotional
xiii. Tension
xiv. Violence
2. Should anger be managed? Why?
The consequences of anger are very adverse and even sometimes life threatening, usually people who are always angry at some or the other thing like; why so and so person did this thing to me?, why I was not recognized?, why people are talking about me? No one loves me!, jealousy etc, tend to displace it by starting fighting, firing bad words or insulting someone, smoking, drinking alcohol and etc, which will put them in more depression instead of freeing or relieving them from this trauma, and will finally commit suicide or murder someone else innocent.
Apart from the above mentioned addictions, they also become vulnerable against many diseases due to loss of resistance system of their body and get abnormalcy state. The joys of the life are gone merely because you don’t like something, can’t adapt to the situations or can’t change your thinking process.
If you would like to have a happy life, you need to perceive everything in a positive manner, be always optimistic and flexible, mingle with people, and accept yourself as well as others, whatever they are and whatever they are doing.
In fact this is life; we need to adapt to its ups and downs and get pleasure from every moment of it. There is a saying which says that, “no pain no gain” is quite appropriately applicable to our life, if we don’t suffer, how will we know the sweet taste of happiness and joys? In fact these are difficulties and sorrows that make happiness more colorful and make it real happiness.
3. What incidents make me angry?
The incidents that are really making me angry are; delay or cancellation of a flight, carelessness of a person, irrational reasoning, mess in my room, at home or even in the classroom or college. And further more I am getting angry at those friends or relatives who don’t get ready fast, while going to college or somewhere else. I hate late goings.
4. Mostly whom I am angry at?
I would say most of the times I am angry at myself and then at human race’s cruelties, oppressions and the way they embrace various religions or other superstitious activities.
5. Besides angry, what does the situation make me feel?
I resent while some teachers exaggerate corporate life’s requirements (qualifications) and underestimate students’ knowledge. It makes me feel illiterate.
I dislike seniors who don’t take the consent of the juniors. It makes me feel voiceless or deprived of my rights.
6. What have I learnt, regarding anger?
I have learnt about anger and its adverse impacts on human beings’ physiological and psychological/emotional/mental processes, as well as how to control and channelise and manage it.
Our minds can not function properly while we are angry, and further more we cant make rational and wise decision while we are angry weather at ourselves or at someone else, in result we may land up somewhere in a deep ditch of dirt, which is going to be a moment of deep grief and depression.
7. How have I change? What is my new way of dealing with life?
In fact our automatic thinking leads us to feelings; hence if we have negative thinking about anything, our feelings would be definitely negative and eventually will get angry at that particular thing. If we try to find out the truth behind that action, then based on that truth we can change our thinking and henceforth we can change our feelings.
For example: I have had hatred about someone for a very long period of time and I always used to say about him that; why he fool is like this? But now I have got the remedy to it.
I pondered deeply into this situation and tried to find out the facts and truths involved in this matter, eventually I found out the truth that he is brought up like this which is a situational case, so he is no more responsible for being so.
Then I stopped to hat him, because I found the truth and he is not to be blamed, for that was the situational and raising part of his life that caused and made him this way. Now I am simply repeatedly saying; it would be nice if he was not like this. And also repeat that it would be nice if I don’t blame him, because this is not his fault.
Note: Among five angers the most hazardous anger is the abstract anger (always angry at yourself and the source of anger is not known), which is really very difficult to cure. We need to be very careful about our anger that can cause our health and take away our joys and happiness if we don’t control it.
